Ambivalence.
It comes from the latin ambi ‘on both sides’, and valere ‘be worth’.
Few important decisions are straight forward. Us humans crave simplicity, binary options, no-brainer trade-offs, but the world is rarely that simple.
There is always nuance, complexity, and second and third order consequences—consequences that appear down the road as a side effect of our original decision.
On both sides of any complex problem, though, there is worth.
Instead of grasping and clawing for an answer, perhaps we should sleep on it and embrace ambivalence. Perhaps it will give us the time and space to see with greater clarity.