Andrew shared a fascinating thread about how to have a friend group in your 30s and beyond, and I really liked it.
As people get older, life experiences diverge, kids take up a lot of time, and jobs take people to far off places.
It’s really hard to have and maintain a friend group with all this other stuff happening.
However, there are two things that make having a friend group easier: 1) a gathering place, and 2) a shared activity.
The best gathering place is someone’s home. Restaurants and cafes are too public, and it’s hard to do anything other than talk and eat in them.
A shared activity could be anything from eating good food, to playing sport, to watching a favourite TV series. As long as it is something the group enjoys doing.
Friend groups also shouldn’t be exclusive. Let’s leave that stuff back in high school. We should proactively invite new people. Don’t worry about them liking or not liking the shared activity; just invite them and then let them decide.
It’s inspired me to take stock and think about how I can be a bit more deliberate in this area of my life.