Maru and I have a rule: that she’ll always correct me when I make a mistake in Spanish. I’ve asked her to point out the mistake, tell me why it was wrong, and help me understand what I should’ve said instead.
It’s a powerful agreement. It’s an expectation that we have of each other: for me to try and improve, and for her to diligently provide thoughtful feedback.
Having an agreement also avoids any tension that comes with unsolicited feedback. Because I’ve asked for it, I have no justification for brushing her feedback aside.