Your coach looks you in the eye, they tell you where you’re getting things wrong, and they give you specific techniques to get better.
You feel awful at first because nothing is working. You try again, and again, and again, but things aren’t clicking. And as you’re seemingly getting worse, it feels like your coach is doggedly searing the tactics into your brain to no avail.
But eventually you start getting some of the mechanics right. A few things start working. You build some confidence, and you start developing some muscle memory.
At this point the coach then says, “Now, you have to feel it.”
At a certain point the theory takes a back seat, and our gut, intuition, and instinct takes over. We don’t achieve a state of flow by thinking our way into it. We have to learn to relax into it.