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I appreciated this video from Harvard professor, Dr. Arthur Brooks. He describes that happiness is a direction, not a destination. He goes on to say that one of the biggest mistakes people make is thinking that happiness is a feeling, and continually chasing that feeling.

We should instead see happiness more like a project that we can work on every day, where the big things that matter in life are: faith (a way of seeing the world, a philosophy, or a religion), family, friendships, and work that serves others.

That feels like a worth direction to travel in.

When writing daily, one is the minimum, but writing should be the instinctual reaction whenever a thought comes into the mind.

So maybe it’s one post, maybe it’s two, or maybe it’s five. The point is not to stop at one, but to be open to however many were the ideas across the brain in a single day.

I’ve been running to and from work for more than a year now, and I’m so pleased it’s become a habit. If I run into the office three days per week, I get about 22 kilometres of distance just from commuting, which gives me a great two-birds-with-one-stone feeling.

I like to be efficient, so every day I’m tempted to start my run without warming up. But I force myself to do 5 minutes of plyometric exercises before I begin. Plyometrics are exercises that “involve rapid and repeated stretching and contracting of the muscles,” and they’re great at getting your body prepared for the impact of road running.

I like to think that by keeping the routine the same, my body learns that a run is about to happen and readys itself for the physical stress to come. And although I can’t prove it, I believe that it significantly lowers the risk of injury.

I’ve never regretted packing light.

I’ve often regretted packing heavy.

If I’m missing something, I can always pick up a few extras.

But throwing things out whilst on the road is a no-no. So we end up lugging around things we don’t need.

Discipline before we set out to make our packs lighter and lighter and lighter pays dividends every day on the road.

Few piano players need all 88 keys. The lowest notes can be muddy and overpowering, and the highest can be too bright to be pleasant.

Especially when playing in a band, there are frequencies occupied by other instruments, so a good pianist can fill the gap in frequencies. For example, there is often little need to play down low when a bass guitar is already filling that frequency.

Just because all 88 keys are available, it takes great skill and experience to know the right frequency range to play in. I think it’s the same the role we play in trams. Just because we can operate at a certain frequency it doesn’t mean we have to.

I took a 4-5 week break from playing tennis, and when I went back for my first lesson post-break, I could barely hit a single clean shot. My coach was gracious, but I’m sure he was scratching his head.

I should’ve tried to get a few hitting sessions beforehand, but I didn’t and paid the price of a mediocre lesson—entirely my fault.

I realised that in most skills or endeavours, we tend to get rusty quickly. We lose muscle memory. We overthink upon our return.

But that’s OK. We need a break from time to time. But it pays to build in a bit of ramp-up time when we’re getting back into the game.

Maru and I got engaged in 2019, but due to the pandemic, we only got married in 2023. And because we chose to do a familymoon—which was one of the best decisions we’ve ever made—we didn’t go on a honeymoon.

Well, this year is our year! We’re finally going on our honeymoon and spending a bunch of time by the ocean in South East Asia.

In an effort to completely unplug, I’m going to be pausing my daily writing. However, the streak is important to me, so I’ve written a number of posts ahead of time and have scheduled them to go out whilst I’m away.

I’ve never done this before, and I’m excited to see how a break makes me feel about, and reflect on, this daily writing habit.

I once heard that restaurant food tastes better than home-cooked food simply because they use more salt and butter.

Apparently that’s a myth. The magic is that chefs season at every step in the cooking process, tasting as they go, and making sure that each component tastes good before it becomes part of the larger dish.

There’s a metaphor in here for how we approach any project. A whole bunch of salt and butter added at the end won’t magically make the dish better.

If you walk into an unfamiliar kitchen and try cook a meal, it’ll take a while to learn the layout and what’s in each drawer.

There are a lot of unfamiliar kitchens out there. A new job. A more ambitious exercise program. Trying a new hobby.

Don’t stress though, the meal will still get made, even if it may take a little longer than usual and requires a bit more effort.

Maru loves having fresh flowers in the home, so for my UK readers, here’s a great flower hack: buy them from Tesco.

Yes, your run-of-the-mill supermarket has excellent flowers. They last for at least a week, sometimes up to ten days, and are often 20-30% of the price you’d pay at a florist.

A few times I’ve bought flowers for Maru from a dedicated florist thinking the quality would justify the price, and I have been consistently disappointed.

Maru now buys a few bunches from Tesco and makes her own arrangements. She often puts them in little vases she made at pottery. It brings a unique liveliness and colour to our home.

There is a strong correlation between the amount I’m reading, and the ideas I have for this blog. When I’m reading a lot, I feel like I have ideas coming out my eyes. But when I’m in a busy spell at work and I’m struggling to find the time, I’m more likely to spend time staring at a blank page.

When I get into an ideas rut, I remember the Charlie Munger quote, “In my whole life, I have known no wise people (over a broad subject matter area) who didn’t read all the time — none, zero.”

Perhaps there’s a reason why the saying goes, ‘Draw a line in the sand’.

Once we draw the line, the tide, the wind, and that dog running along the beach will all work to erase the line.

We have to keep drawing it to remind ourselves repeatedly of why we’re here, and what we’re willing and unwilling to do.

It’s not always about getting everything right.

Sometimes the real value is in making mistakes faster; enabling us to learn and change approach before we spend too much time on a dud idea.

I have a folder in my writing software called Emergency. The idea behind the folder is to have a few blog posts on hand in case I find myself in a pinch and need to post something quickly.

The funny thing is many of these posts have sat in that folder for years, and when I’ve gone to use them, I’ve found that the message either no longer resonates, or I would like to communicate the point differently.

It’s definitely something that sounds good in theory, but doesn’t really work in practice. It’s better to just sit down, think, and write a fresh post.

“It’s impossible for a person to begin to learn what they think they already know.”—Epictetus

I’m trying to increase my ratio of questions to opinions.