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The grass will be greener where we choose to water it.

In July and August of 2022, the UK suffered through multiple heat waves. The temperature reached 40 degrees on some days, which is completely out of character for this characteristically cold and cloudy country.

Some nights were sleepless. The air was stifling, and the heat felt like a weight on your chest.

Maru and I debated buying a portable air conditioning unit, but we were already into our second or third heat wave and it felt like a waste to buy one if we only got a few weeks usage out of it. So we baked for a few more weeks.

However, this year, in anticipation of heatwaves to come, we decided to buy a unit. And making a move to buy before the heatwaves arrived gave us the peace of mind that we’re set for much better sleep throughout the summer months.

Not always, but there’s often a benefit to moving before you need to—being on the front foot and in offence mode can be a big advantage.

I’ve felt sorry for one of our neighbourhood Italian restaurants for years. Every time I’ve looked through their windows, there is no one seated at their tables.

I follow my mum’s principle of only eat at busy places, so I never gave this restaurant a chance. However, friends recommended we try it out, and I begrudgingly accepted.

When I arrived, as expected, there was no one seated at the tables. However, at the back of the room was a staircase that led down to a quaint garden packed with patrons. Not only that, the food was delicious and service was faultless.

From first impressions, I didn’t give the restaurant a chance. But after a bit more digging, and crucially seeing the garden, I changed my mind.

Always check the garden.

This was a simple, clear, and useful podcast episode from Shortwave on the 6 biggest sunscreen mistakes.

Here are the ones I found most useful:

1. Dermatologists replace their sunscreen every spring. The active ingredients in an already open bottle can degrade, and bacteria can get in too.
2. SPF isn’t as important as I thought. SPF 15 blocks out 93% of UV rays, and SPF 30 blocks out 97%. Going for SPF 50 or 80 has rapidly diminishing marginal benefits.
3. Rather than worry about SPF, focus on putting on enough sunscreen. You need a shot glass worth for your body (25mls), and about a teaspoon worth for your face.
4. Dermatologists often see the worst burns from overcast days. Don’t forget to protect on cloudy days too.
5. Regularly reapply sunscreen. If sweating or swimming, reapply every 80-90 minutes.

Maru and I went to see Gabriel perform at the Pizza Express Live venue yesterday evening.

He’s a pop / jazz songwriter, and I found him via my ‘Discover Weekly’ on Spotify. I ended up really liking a few of his songs and was thrilled he had an upcoming London show.

The venue was small and intimate with great acoustics, so you could hear the details of what each member of talented band was playing.

Two of my favourite songs of his ‘I’m lost for words’ and ‘I wish I was a rich guy’ were written in a day as part of a write-30-songs-in-30-days challenge.

Check his stuff out on Spotify for a hit of pop, jazzy goodness!

I had a good idea for a post earlier today. But I was running between meetings, so I forgot to write it down.

At the end of the workday, I opened up Ulysses to write my post, but I had lost the idea. I fought for a moment to recall and retrieve the idea, but it was gone.

In these moments, instead of getting frustrated, I remind myself: if it’s truly a great idea, it’ll come back. If it isn’t, it’ll stay lost—and that’s OK.

When building digital products and experiences, there are no shortage of new ideas. Ideas to make things better. Ideas to make things easier. Ideas to overcome old problems.

Over time I’ve come to learn that the pitch for the new idea should feel natural and easy. The description of both the problem and the solution should be quick, simple, and clear.

This doesn’t mean the idea is obvious. Uber in its early days was a non-obvious, counter-intuitive solution—but the problem and solution were certainly easy to understand.

The easier it is for the end user to understand how the solution solves their problem, the more chance we have at building something successful.

I know a few people who are allergic to management speak.

No matter how complicated the problem, they use simple words to add clarity and move a team towards a goal.

They don’t try to “leverage”, “align”, or “circle back”. They don’t even “take things offline”. They operate with no filler.

They remind me of the idea that “clear thinking is a prerequisite for clear communication”.

They have a good type of allergy.

One of the benefits of daily writing is consistently, and persistently, confronting the fear of writer’s block.

Note, I include “the fear of” and not just “writer’s block”.

A long time ago I decided that just like the monster under the bed doesn’t exist, neither does writer’s block.

As Patricia Ryan Madsen says in ‘Improv Wisdom’, “There’s always something in the box.”

When I feel the fear, I pause. I sit. I wait. I try not to force things. I try assume a posture, attitude, and mind of openness. I decide to be curious. I refuse to be defeated by the fear.

And some days, when I’m really struggling, I remember the William Stafford quote, “Lower your standards and keep writing.”

There is no destination. The joy is in turning up every day.

It’s a gift.

For the child. For the friend. For that team member. For the hard problem that needs solving. For the organisation’s focus for the next quarter.

When everything competes for our attention, it sets people apart when they’re generous and deliberate with their undivided attention.

The baker lets the dough rise before it goes in the oven. A rushed bake leads to a sad loaf.

I find the same with any meaningful piece of thinking or writing that I’m doing at work.

I first need to get some stuff down on paper and knead it. It’s a sticky, gooey mess, but I give it time to rise overnight.

The next day, I pop it in the oven. I put my ideas from yesterday under immense pressure. I try to see the situation from different angles, get the opinion of others, and ultimately watch the ideas transform into a fully formed loaf.

And just like we find with baking, sometimes the finished product still isn’t good, and that’s OK. We can always try bake another loaf.

Summer solstice was today; the longest day of the year.

Most summers go by and Maru and I talk about how we should’ve had more picnics after work and spent more time in London’s parks.

This year, she’s been diligent in suggesting we eat outdoors after work, and it’s made a huge difference. Eating a simple salad in the park helps us to disconnect from the work day and enjoy the long summer evenings.

It’s a small change, but it’s helping to ensure we don’t let summer slip by.

I heard a great piece of advice recently, purportedly from a former Olympian swimmer to one of his students after a particularly challenging training session.

When chasing a dream, or doing anything hard, you should feel good one third of the time, OK another third of the time, and bad for the final third of the time.

If you’re always feeling good, you’re probably not pushing yourself enough. If you’re feeling bad all the time, you may need more rest, be at risk of burnout, or the goal might be set too high.

Not all days should be good days. The bad ones help us know we’re on the right path. But above all, the ratio between them is important.

I went to my first yoga class in years today. I used to practise yoga via an app and YouTube videos, so I didn’t feel completely like a fish out of water.

Today’s class reminded me of an important lesson: everyone is on a different journey, with different abilities, priorities, and motivations. Don’t compare. Do the best you can, and work inside, and with, your limitations—we’re only competing against ourselves.

That’s a lot to go through one’s mind in the middle of an off-balanced warrior pose!

Quite a few of you wrote in asking me to share the pastry places Maru and I visited last weekend.

Here’s a custom Google map along with a little commentary about each location. Two people can only eat so many pastries, but I’m sure we’ll continue to grow the list on future visits!

Here’s hoping it helps some of your with your upcoming Paris trips!